No Mo' Drama Mama

          So I've decided that from here on out, I will dedicate my life to being drama-free!  I know I mentioned this new blog as my FB status and people seemed to really like the idea.  Who knows, maybe I will have some new readers.  (I know, I'm an attention-seeker... you got me!)
As a note to anybody who has just begun reading this or who has been a dedicated follower: this is not technically a new blog, it's just a new focus. My blog has been and will always be dedicated to Joe Alabarces, who was my sister Alicia's first boyfriend.  He died two years ago.  About a year before his terminal illness took hold of his life, his "About Me" section on MySpace had a Gandhi quote, "Live each day like you are going to die tomorrow, learn like you were going to live forever."  So I dedicated my blog to that wisdom.

          But! Living life the past year has been rather turbulent and I definitely wasn't living for the day, and I wasn't learning very much. I learned a lot of things NOT to do, but here's what I DID learn:

1.     When commenting on a Facebook status, keep in mind who else  your "friend" may be friends with.
           IE. Always keep in mind that your former roommate may work with your friend. Whoops.
           Ever hear of the Law of Attraction? Well, she told me I am a living drama. Ouch!  That thought stuck and I've done a GREAT job of manifesting drama for the past year.  I guess what I have learned is that, maybe there is something to this law... who knew Oprah may have been on to something. 
2   End a romantic relationship when your gut tells you to.
          Okay, so I was dating this guy who got too busy with his work.  He never used that as an excuse, but his time away from work was spent with the boys or sleeping in a hammock.  I took advantage of his "non-availability," went on a few dates with a guy who was probably better suited for me, but who in turn said I never made time for him! Ha! Go figure!
          And then a spur of the moment trip to another city to meet up with a guy who months earlier you just couldn't keep your eyes off because he was so interesting.  Nights in a different city generally end in a drunken night and making out.  Next, tttttrrrryyyyy to remember that you met this guy through the guy you are currently having second thoughts about, so you don't have to cover your tracks.
          What I learned from this: Guilt will cause you to do crazy ass things, like being constantly jealous of what your dude is up to.  And then it'll make you want him around ALL THE TIME.  LUCKILY! I realized after all the Bullshit I put him through that he didn't know about, that I was just impatient with his busy summer work schedule.  I think it could have been a good relationship (even though he says he's not a boyfriend type... yeah whatever, he's too nice not to be boyfriend material... he's got some crazy facade he's got to keep up... I think he's just purely male and needs instinctually to spread his "genes" around... :) And if you read this sexilicious, you know that I love you and this is just me clearing the slate....xoxo)

3.  When you meet a married man, who before he even sits down, you know that a connection is already there, run. Run for your life.
          It'll save both of you from detrimental pain.  If this man is everything you have really ever dreamt of in a partner, recognize that he's already chosen one. When he is having doubts about his marriage, stay out of it.  If you are convinced you really love him, be STRONG, keep your boundaries up and refrain from talking to him (or her, if you're on the other side of the table)  If your "dream" person ends up getting divorced, and you have stayed away, who knows what your chances will be.  If you meddle, your heads gets screwed and eventually you could ruin what might have been something awesome in the end.  Here is what your guilt will do if you meddle (and of course if you have a conscience) you will find any way to make the married person miserable. You may say hateful and vengeful things, that you probably would refrain from if you were in good conscience.  Oh, and then you may have the mindset when you feel guilty, to use other people to make you feel better. Collateral damage so to speak.

So okay, there you have it.... clearing the slate.  You may be thinking, that's it? So many people do these things and don't even think twice. Well, I have a problem living with a guilty conscience.  I go on and on about how much I care for the people in my life, but why would I hide things from them or lie just to save face?  I've come to the conclusion that I like to be the victim.  Well, my friends... I am overcoming the victim role.  I'm also going to overcome the guilt-induced perpetrator.  I want to live well, I want to be happy, I think this is the first step. Wish me luck, the road to a healthy psychosis for the Captain is undiscovered terrain.