Twin Flames or Soul Bonding

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Netflix has a docuseries streaming right now, Escaping Twin Flames. The description intrigued me, 

A couple built a spiritual business to help people find true love. Now, former followers are sharing their disturbing practices in this docuseries.

Put the word spiritual in anything and I'm bound to read or watch it!

I had never heard of this concept twin flames, and after watching, I did a deep dive. So much so I get quora emails telling me how to identify my twin flame. If twin flames are a thing, I think I am part of a quadruplet flame, as there have been 3 gentlemen in my life who have left me feeling the way these people say twin flames feel after they go into a time of "separation." If you want to know more about what a twin flame is, google it. It's all over the interwebz.

The general definition, though, is: "one soul in two bodies."   

As a Christian in the Wesleyan tradition, I believe the mind, body, and soul ARE one and exist in the same place in time and space. They are intricately bound together; they cannot be pulled from each other. Therefore, it is difficult for me to believe this concept. Twin flame experts will tell you that we have one singular nature; the soul. Plain and simple we are our souls. However, they also believe we have a body and a mind and that these two parts of ourselves live in duality and the soul lives in oneness. The soul, therefore, is consciousness that surpasses time and space. That means the soul can reincarnate at any time in any body, and sometimes it does so on the same timeline because, thank you, Einstein, time is relative.

So, my working definition of twin flames: one soul that has reincarnated in two different bodies because time is an illusion. 

Seriously, trying to understand different ideas of spirituality can be mind-warping. But hey, it's all relative, right?

Here's what I think really happens: I think souls, our higher selves, as some may call them, can bond. And I think it's more than the idea of a soul mate. 

The Postal Service says it best, I think, in their song Such Great Heights, (I'm so excited to see them in May, just btw)

I am thinking it's a sign

That the freckles in our eyes

Are mirror images

And when we kiss they're perfectly aligned

And I have to speculate

That God HERself did make

Us into corresponding shapes

Like puzzle pieces from the clay

Now, there are lots of sites out there that talk about soul mates, soul ties, soul partnerships, soul whatever, but not soul bonding.

A soul bond is emotional. It is physical. It is intellectual. It is a strong familiarity, a knowing, or a deep level of understanding. It is being able to see the other's soul in one's eyes and see your soul reflected back. You don't need to pull information from that person because you instinctively know the pain or the joy, the love or the hate, the confusion or the certainty. There's a mirroring in your life experiences and emotions (even if you reject your emotions) that draws you in. 

Your thoughts align and you tend to say or think the same things at the same time. When you are apart you may have a sense that you are in that person's presence. When you meet, there is an instantaneous feeling of love, but not always romantic love. It is a love that binds you together in some astral plane, and you have no control over it. It just is. You can try to deny it, or push it away, but it's there. You can try to break the bond, but it's nearly impossible. 

A soul bond can be frightening because for some reason it has a hold on you that you cannot explain.

Twin flames posit that the soul is in two bodies. That to me speaks of brokenness and the need for another to make you whole. A soul bond, on the other hand, is not that. A soul bond posits that you, in your fullness, come to a meeting of another whole person with a mirroring soul. The soul bond can happen, though, even in our brokenness - and I think that's when it can become dangerous. Two people in their brokenness, with such an intense soul bond, can deeply harm each other. Not always willingly, of course, just because it's so intense - and the unknowing of why it has happened, or how to handle it, becomes too much for the mind to grapple.

I hope, if you ever find that person who your mind, body, and soul bonds to, happens when you are ready for it. 

Those are my thoughts - who knows, I may be completely delusional... but aren't we all from time to time?